Self Esteem and Women

Self esteem and Women


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Self Esteem and the Cycle of Being Used

Ladies....

If your self-esteem is strong and healthy, you are less likely to be used by men.

Contrariwise, women with low self-esteem and feeling of insecurity and worthlessness are often vulnerable to the use and degradation of not-so-great men.

Over and over I see young women with low self esteem who think that if a guy gives them attention it means they are valuable. Or if they have sex with a guy, then he will love them. Not so.

There is a big difference between a great man wanting to be with a woman, and a not-so-great guy wanting to use whomever they can find for an hour or so.

For thousands of years woman have lived in a world where their value is dependent on their sexual worth to men. We need to let this archaic idea go.

You are valuable because you are a human being. Your worth is dependent on your humanness. Regardless of the views of men, you are important and essential to our world. You have unique talents, traits, and ideas that have nothing to do with how not-so-great guys view you sexually. Your worth is not dependent on a bunch of guys who want nothing more than someone to take care of their needs.

Here is what often happens...

1. A woman lacks self-esteem, feels unattractive, worthless or unappealing to men.

2. She feels horrible about herself and thinks she is not worthy of a great guy.

3. She takes unhealthy attention from any guy who is in need of sexual pleasure.

4. After being taken advantage of, her self-esteem plummets. She feels sad, used, demeaned.

5. Her experience supports the idea that she is worth nothing so she becomes more vulnerable to not-so-great guys.

6. She really wants a guy to give her attention to help her feel valuable so she gives herself to whomever gives her a glance.

And so the cycle continues.

How does a woman break the cycle?

You strengthen your self-esteem. You decide that you will not be taken advantage of again. You become strong and secure. You let go of the idea that your value is dependent on your sexual appeal to guys. You take back your strength.

I’m not suggesting it is easy. In truth it is often most difficult. But, until a woman decides she is not going to be used, she will continue to be vulnerable... she will continue to get hurt.

Those men who use you are not the kind of guys you want to be with. They are not the type of men who make for a great husband or long term partner.

There are great men out there who want a healthy and happy relationship. There are great men who won’t take advantage of a vulnerable insecure woman.